Saturday, May 7, 2011

What I Now Know About Breastfeeding Just Because I Breastfeed!

"Welcome to the Milk Mama Diaries Carnival (May).  This carnival is dedicated to all moms, celebrating Mother's Day today.  Participants will share various topics covering A Breastfeeding Mother's Top Ten List.  Please scroll down to the end of this post and check out the other carnival participants."

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Early morning nursing session!
One of the things I'm most proud of is breastfeeding my son, Vito. I was ambivalent to breastfeeding because I was never breastfed and I turned out perfectly okay. Very sickly until I turned 30 but, aside from that, I think I turned out quite alright!

I was also scared to breastfeed because I've heard so many horror stories. For example, it hurts like hell, your nipples will become black, your breasts will become porn-worthy huge. I'm glad to say that of the three examples I mentioned, only the first one was true!

Which brings me to this list of the things I now know about breastfeeding!

1. Breastfeeding is painful.
Yes, let's get that out of the way, shall we? Breastfeeding is painful but only in the first two weeks. The powerful suction of your newborn's mouth coupled with the sensitive nipple just made me see stars the first few days.

Many women give up because, after the pain of childbirth, really, do we need to feel pain to feed our child? Well, what got me through that phase was, funnily enough, my ambivalence towards breastfeeding! Every day, I said, "Ouch ouch ouch! This will be my last day to nurse. Tomorrow, I'm switching to formula!" But then tomorrow came and I figured if I survived yesterday, I can breastfeed again today. By the time the second week rolled along, the pain had disappeared!

2. Breastfeeding is so pleasurable.
Vito is now 8 months and 3 weeks old. I'm still nursing him because "breast milk is best for babies up to two years old." My real reason? It feels really good! Not in a sexual way, okay? Strangely enough, there's nothing sexual about nursing.

The pleasure I feel is relief when the breasts are emptied (yes, breasts swollen with milk is not a happy feeling), happiness at the thought that Vito is getting tons of perfect nutrition from me, and contentment because I never feel as close to him as I do when I nurse him. It's just such a sweet and joyful intimacy!

3. I don't need big breasts to produce milk.
Another reason I was ready to formula-feed Vito was the fact that I've been flat-chested all my life. I wasn't even an A cup, I was an AA cup. Yes, that's an even smaller size. My kid's yaya made me feel worse when she took one look at my chest and said, "Your breasts are small and you are old. Your child will go hungry." Great. Thanks a lot for making me feel oh so much better.

Wonder of wonders, Vito has never gone hungry and is very healthy! My breasts are now a B cup, a C when very full, which seldom happens as I am with Vito 18/7 (I wish 24/7!). I will admit that I now mix feed. But the formula (I use Dairy Gold, which is goat's milk--lighter than cow's milk, causes less allergic reactions, and free from growth hormones) is just there in case my supply of expressed breast milk runs out when I'm at work.

Happy Mother's Day!

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7 comments:

  1. wag ka... a friend described breastfeeding as erotic :D not sexually, but i guess more sensually or emotionally? :)

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  2. "The pleasure I feel is relief when the breasts are emptied (yes, breasts swollen with milk is not a happy feeling), happiness at the thought that Vito is getting tons of perfect nutrition from me, and contentment because I never feel as close to him as I do when I nurse him. It's just such a sweet and joyful intimacy!

    --my feelings, exactly! :) i guess mommies really do share the same thoughts and feelings. :) looking forward to the other posts!

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  3. I can relate to the small boobs, haha. I knew the size had nothing to do with my capacity to produce, so it's amazing when you're actually making loads of milk for your baby, diba? I love it!

    Btw, Frances, pa-add naman ang link ko to the Carnival list ;) http://daintymom.blogspot.com/2011/05/10-things-you-dont-say-to-breastfeeding.html

    Can't wait for parts 2 & 3!

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  4. where do you buy dairy gold milk?

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  5. Mec, I don't know how your friend understands "erotic" but it means something that arouses sexual desire. It's the only meaning of erotic!

    I think she used the word incorrectly. She must mean sensual pleasure, which doesn't necessarily mean erotic pleasure. Like me, I feel sensory pleasure when Vito drains the milk out of my body. It's similar to scratching an itch, or releasing your bladder after holding your pee in for a long time =)

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  6. Toffeleen, from the supermarket! I buy from Robinsons. Oh, and Mercury Drug also. You have to super look for it kasi the big name brands are all displayed prominently. They hide Dairy Gold to the side or the bottom.

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  7. Dina and Martine, will add my Parts 2-3 after my Pampers post time requirement is up =)

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This is all pretty new to me so please feel free to share your mommy wisdom!