Friday, May 9, 2014

Big hearts

After lunch today, Vito was calling his Papa, who was locked up in the bedroom, writing. Vito wanted to play even though he knew that after lunch is his father's work time. So I went over to play with him and he said, "Not you, Mama. I don't want you."

"I know, baby, but you also know that Papa's working so it'll have to be me."

"But I don't want you here," he puffed, annoyed. "Only Papa."

"Oh," I said.

He saw me standing there awkwardly and then he sighed almost sadly. He put down his toy, went up to me, pulled me down to him, and put his hand on my shoulder. "Mama, I love you but I love Papa more. Are you okay?"

And funnily enough, as my heart swelled to see the great love my son had for his father, I realized that I was telling the truth when I replied, "Yes, that's okay. I'm very okay with that."

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15 comments:

  1. aw... this just show a mom can love you no matter what.

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    1. And I know he loves me naman so no need to be hurt =)

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  2. Shucks, medyo na teary-eyed ako! You're an awesome Mom, Frances! Baka umiyak ako pag sabihan na ako ni Jacob niyan. :( I'm not yet ready to be second to his Dad. What made you say it's okay? Maybe it'll help me when the time comes.

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    1. Oh! From the very start, I wanted my sons to be close to their father. I always insisted that Vince be part of taking care of the kids—giving them their milk, changing their diapers, washing their butts, feeding them. I want a really strong father figure in their lives. Never ako nagselos—kay Vince, sa yaya, sa grandparents—kasi I'll always be their mother. I'll always be the biggest presence in their lives, whether I'm absent or present.

      I feel that way for my own mother kasi. She was a super driven career woman so she was never there. She always had yayas or relatives or our Papa taking care of us, her kids. You'd think we won't love her but we do. We loved her so much! Simply because she was our mother. So I know I can be generous with my kids' love because I will always be their first love =)

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    2. I super agree on this, Frances! People sometimes wonder how my daughter can adore her father so much despite him being not around all the time. Though I must be commended for that, I never tell them. I always say it's my husband who does all the 'job'. It's kinda martyr-ish but I'm happy still. Mas okay na she loves her tatay more kesa ako yung less. Kasi alam ko, at the end of the day, she will still run to me for everything. I'm her mom! :)

      Advanced happy moms' day to you! ❤

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    3. I do that, too! Like I'll say, "This toy is from Papa! Papa is working so hard so we can have more toys! Papa is so macho killing the flies and ipis!" As in super ko binibida si Vince palagi. I want my children, because they are boys especially, to idolize their Papa =)

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    4. Same here! Me naman, since I have a girl, if she can't get a better guy (please, huwag sundalo), eh might as well katulad ng Tatay niya. I hope that by their closeness, she'll have good relationship with men in the future. :)

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  3. This somehow made me tear. Happy Mother's Day, Frances! You are one of the very rare brutally honest mommy bloggers I always look up to. :)

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    1. Aww thanks! But I'm a bumbling, always failing, trying hard mommy! Please don't look up to me!!!

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  4. Aww..Happy Mother's Day to you Ms. Frances! Vito, Inigo and Baby Chicken will be a fine young man when they grow up just like their Daddy Vince. My boys love their father more than they love me too, and I'm okey with it. Moms will always have that special place in their kid's heart no matter what. God bless your family. :)

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    1. You're right! It's not a contest naman. Kids will love us differently =) God bless your family, too!

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  5. I chocked up a bit while reading this. I was so young when I had my first born so while I was raising him, I also had to deal with the difficulties (plus insecurities) of being a young mom and all! You're so graceful! It happened to me with my second son and I cried! But not in front of him! Haha. You're imparting so much wisdom! I love your blog! But more than that, I love your honesty! Happy mothers' day! You are truly an inspiration. And happy birthday to Inigo! Time flew by so fast!

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    1. I don't know how it feels to be a young mom but I tell ya, old mommies have insecurities, too! =D

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  6. What your son said was beautful. What was even more beautiful was your reply. Now THAT's a mother. :)

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