So I had to ask Vince if he was okay, and ask it like I really mean it, you know? He said he was fine, thank goodness. But I think we should look after each other, and do so more closely. It's easy to get caught up in the urgency of kids' needs that we forget to look after our own. Then we are spent, giving and giving from a place that is drained and devoid of nurturing.
I honestly think Vince and I are there—with three kids, suddenly we can't breathe. We can hardly find the time to eat, sleep, shower. We can't even find time to talk to each other. We're always running around the house, running after kids, preventing accidents, washing dishes and clothes and butts, giving baths, making milk, settling fights, soothing cries. If we do find a little window of time, we cram in work (so please forgive me if I only do sponsored posts on both blogs since this non-sponsored post is rare).
Parenting is an incredibly isolating and exhausting job. And you can never ever quit it or even take a vacation from it or even blink dammit! The one time you blink, look away, step out of the room, that's when the kids get into an accident. Guaranteed. It's insane how we parents need to be on all the time. Even when we're asleep, we're never really off. One small cough from our kids and we are roused from our own slumber.
Oh, but don't worry about us! We're not unhappy. Tired, yes, but we're happy. We still have the ability to see how blessed we are to have three beautiful, healthy, smart and wonderful boys. We have each other and we're doing this parenting thing together. We have a lovely (now suddenly cramped!) home. And we also both know that this stage goes by so quickly. In a few months, a few years, we'll be able to breathe again. So there's something to look forward to!
But many parents are often sinking into despair. Many stay-at-home moms feel lonely, missing adult interaction. Many working moms feel guilt. Many fathers fear failure and buckle under the pressure to provide. If you are feeling depressed, make sure to talk about it with your spouse, your family, your friends. Don't be ashamed to admit how you feel. Some people will tell you that "we all go through shit" and "you better get on with the program." No sympathy there. But some people will empathize and help and listen and give a hug. Sometimes all we really need is a hug.
Here's more about depression:
Remember to ask about each other, moms and dads! And listen, really listen. Parenting is the most awesome job in the world but we all face overwhelming aspects of it, so let's be kind to ourselves and take care of each other. Hugs!
Strength from God's Word: "When I am overwhelmed, You alone know the way I should turn." Psalm 142:3 (NLT)
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