Wednesday, March 18, 2015

How to deal with envy

In the blogging world, in the mommy world, in every aspect of life, when someone is doing better than we're doing, we feel envy. Well, I don't know about you, but I feel it. Very rarely but when it does happen, I feel it eating away at me.

Why is she succeeding? What is her secret? Why does she do it better when I'm better than her? Why does she make it look so easy? Why can't I do the same? Why am I stuck here? Why? Why? Why?

Envy is not my usual sin (it's pride, if you must know); so when I feel it, I don't know how to deal with it. It's unfamiliar and oh so very ugly. So when I read this devotion today, I just knew that God was speaking to me.

The way to deal with envy is:
  1. Know my purpose. It makes me confident of my talents and abilities. It also assures me that wherever I am in my life and the progress of my work, that's exactly where I'm meant to be. This is my own unique journey! Focus! Focus! 
  2. Be humble. It's actually pride (aha, my familiar sin!) that makes us think we're better than others, that makes us feel threatened. 
  3. Love others. When I look at other people with God's eyes and His love, then it's very easy to celebrate their accomplishments. How do I know this? Because I'm a mommy and every little accomplishment of my children is a party in my heart. God is our Father! With His love as my model, then every blessing of His children is a cause for celebration for me, too.

Thank You, Lord, for talking to me today! I will be happy for all the mommies who are more stylish, cook better, are more organized, have nicer and cleaner homes, are more successful in their careers, have more awesome blogs, have little girls! I am blessed so much myself! I know that You have blessed me greatly and I am sorry for losing sight of that, and I am grateful for the amazing, beautiful life You've given me! Amen.

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  1. Amen. Thanks for this Frances. Subscribed to Proverbs 31 Ministries. I think I need this in my life.

    As usual, you've made a super honest post (that's why I love this blog!). Most of us, me included, don't want to admit we feel envy. Pero you are right. Lahat ata tayo nararamdaman to. And we should accept it and know how to deal with it.

  2. I'm guilty! Envy is my usual sin. I usually feel down because I compare myself with others most of the time.. but I realized that instead of being jealous, I should be inspired by them and be happy for them and focus on whatever I plan to do because you're right, we have our own journeys and wherever we are, it's God's plan for us.. And I just subscribed to Proverbs 31! Thank you for recommending it. :)

  3. Thank you for sharing this, Frances. God spoke to me today through your blog!

  4. I am going to subscribe now. I know I need this. I don't have the sin of pride, but I do have insecurity leading to envy. Sometimes I think it was humility, but I realized that I am belittling myself as a child of God. This is something I am currently learning...

  5. Thank you for this Frances. I too am guilty of feeling envy and I really appreciate being inspired by God's word through this post. I am not used to seeing devotional posts lole this from you but I love it. :) It's wonderful to know that a passionate woman like you is guided by the Lord and His Word. Your family is amazing!

  6. Truly needed in this world nowadays. Thank you for sharing <3


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