Tuesday, March 31, 2015

I could've been that mom

There is a horrifying video spreading on Facebook. It is of a child who fell from his stroller while on an escalator. His fingers got caught, and his mother is there crouched over him. I shared it and said this.


If you want to watch the video (don't, mommies!), just search na lang for Blaise Roxas's account. The video is just a few seconds long but the screams, the wailing, the panic everywhere. And even though I can't see the mother's face, I know, I know her heart has stopped. Why? Well, as my status update there said, it happened to me. The difference is my child was saved by a seatbelt.

I don't know this mother but I know what it's like to try and try and try so damn hard to protect your child and then you slip, just once, because you're tired or distracted or you think you know better, and of course the unthinkable happens.

When we used the stroller on the escalator that time, it was because we were in a hurry. I have three kids. They were cranky. We parents were getting cranky. The mall was full. The elevators were always full and always slow. We just wanted to go home. So we decided on the escalator. It's fast, we'll get home faster, everyone happy! What could possibly go wrong? Well, as we were going down, the wheels got stuck. The escalator pushed me and the other people behind me forward, and we pushed the stroller forward but since the wheels were stuck, the stroller pitched over. My child would have fallen out of his seat were it not for the seatbelt. I cried for help. No one helped. No one knew what was happening. It was happening so quickly!

Someone finally pulled the stroller off the escalator. My heart started beating again. We were safe.

We were lucky. Not many of us get to walk away from the consequences of stupid decisions so lightly.

After that incident, we barely use the stroller na. I don't even remember the last time we used the stroller. It's not the fault of the stroller. Not the fault of the escalator. The fault of the parents, of course. Definitely I know it was my fault. I may have my reasons but those were and will never be good enough excuses to put my child in danger. I know better now. We all know better, right? We all know we should use a seatbelt and we all know we shouldn't use a stroller on the escalator.

But we all also know we get tired, we get stupid, we get distracted. So instead of judging this poor mother, let's pray for her and her baby. She's already going to feel guilty for the rest of her life for what happened to her child. Imagine every time she looks at her poor child's hands! What eternal punishment! Let's hope she and her child will be okay.

And remember: Always secure your child to the stroller with the seatbelt. Never use a stroller on the escalator.

God help us parents.

UPDATE!!! I am just waiting to verify this news but it seems like St. Luke's Global responded immediately and the child was rescued and is okay. If true, hooray!

UPDATE April 1: Two important things, mga mommies: First, the baby is okay. Thank God! Second, I don't know what really happened and I feel bad for jumping to conclusions. I assumed that the baby fell out of the stroller because that's what the caption of Blaise Roxas's video said, and I believed it. Turns out the baby WAS NOT in the stroller and DID NOT fall out of the stroller. We don't even know if the stroller in the video belongs to the family. We simply assumed that because there was a stroller on the escalator, that it belongs to the child and that the child fell out of it.


Yes, accidents do happen! I feel more strongly now for the parents, especially the mommy, of this baby because people judged her for something that didn't happen! I'm sorry for simply believing the caption sa video. I completely forgot my journalist training of verifying facts first. Sorry, dear readers! This is a huge lesson to me. A big thanks to my reader Vanessa for checking out the real story and for updating us!

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6 comments:

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    1. Yes, a blog reader told me parang lumabas na scratches and bruises lang ang damage. Still, nakakapanghina pa rin =(

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  2. I'm scared to watch. I don't want to watch. Binabasa ko palang this post and the comments on your FB naiiyak na ko. Will pray na lang for the child.

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    1. Ako rin! Pray also for the mommy. Super daming judgment on social media on her =(

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  3. I can't watch the video :( :( not yet a mom, but I can just imagine the pain of the child and the mommy! whenever we ride the escalator with my pamangkins, I always remind them to be careful because escalator are really hazardous for kids! and totoo naman, kahit anong bantay mo sa bata. Anything can happen in seconds lang. I hope social media will be to the mommy.... She'll carry that guilt forever na. I hope the kiddo is not traumatized. Thanks mommy frances for this post, again so honest and real

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  4. this also happen to my friend son.. in Marketmarket naman. same thing happen when iread the caption i new the baby was not on stroller kasi if ever mahulog ung baby sa stroller d nman didiretso agad ung kamay nya sa gilid ng escalator. what my happem to the son of my friend is when they where going up hinayaan humawak ung bata so nagexplore umabot ung kamay sa baba sa moving escalator then ayun sumabit. my friend is not also with him that time. pero ok na ung baby nya good thing d naputol and bumalik sa dati ung form ung kamay.
    i think naman if your the nanay you are super protected talga for your child pag ikaw ang kasama :)
    heart stopping moment tlga ung incidents like this :(

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