Friday, April 17, 2015

The "why I work" reason that just flew out the window

I have a personal rule that I have to be home every day by 5 P.M. Because our kids have no yayas, they are used to their Mama and Papa eating every meal with them, and we do all the bedtime rituals like bath time and brush-teeth time and story time and sleepy time together.

This rule makes it easy for me to decline events. Yes, even the most fabulous events. I always miss the most fabulous events because these are always scheduled from 5 P.M. onwards. I feel a twinge of I don't know what whenever I scroll down my Instagram and see my friends all dolled up for a night out, but then I see myself in bed, sandwiched by babies, and I look outside and see the horrific traffic on EDSA and I know I made the better decision. Hehe.

I like my rule. It's a rule that reminds me how lucky I am even though we aren't swimming in money. I mean, seriously now, I can dictate my hours and say no to lucrative projects and profile-raising events so I can be with my kids. How lucky am I?!

I had to break this rule a few times recently, however, because I've been busy with work (you might've noticed my absence from blogging!). The rule-breaking was unintended because they resulted from poor decisions really. First, I was exploring a project with a potential blog sponsor but after I got home at past 9 that night, I knew I couldn't go through with it.  Then for two straight days this week, I got home at around 7, because I had photo shoots for Baby Magazine, and shoots can drag on for hours. I knew that so I should've scheduled the shoots earlier but I didn't so my bad. So I broke my promise (and my rule) to be home before the sun sets. The kids weren't happy with that!

My smart and silly Iñigo!

So anyway, today, I had to go out again. Just for a few hours to return the products I borrowed from Mothercare and Rustan's that I shot for the magazine. Iñigo, my almost three-year-old sweetheart, saw me dressing up and said, "Where you going again today, Mama?"

"I'm going to work, sweetie."

"Again?!?"

My inner self wanted to say, "Little dude, I work out of home maybe two days a week so don't use that tone on me," but of course he's a baby and any time away from me must be eternity for him. So I reply, "Yes, Mama has to work again, but I won't be too long out today."

Iñigo frowned. "Why you have to work, Mama?"

"Well, people give me money in exchange for the work that I do for them. We need money to buy your toys and your clothes, to pay for the electricity for the TV and iPads, to buy food. Don't you like all those things?"

"Yes."

"Then Mama needs to work so you can have all those things."

"But I don't want toys and clothes and iPad and TV."

"Oh wow, really?" Really?! I should've recorded this! "Well, we'll still need to buy food. You know what will happen if we don't eat?"

"We'll die."

"Yes! So Mama needs to work so we can eat because I don't want us to die."

"Mama, it's okay. We can die together."

Hmm. Next time, I'll have to tell my little guy that I work because I like to work. This working-for-money thing just isn't going to cut it!


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19 comments:

  1. Nakaka gigil ang cuteness ni Piero!!!

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  2. kids nowadays are really smart for that kind of conversation noh? they understand really quick...

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  3. My daughter, when she was around 34mos and was really clingy when talking about school said the same thing to me too. My answer to her why I work is that she can go to school (I have a privilege to send my child to this school for free) and she retorted, "I can go to another school..." Funny but a little sad.

    You are right. I should have told her that aside from the money, I like to work. But sometimes I hear a voice that say it sounds selfish. But I know its not. (shakes head)

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  4. That "dying together" part is so sweet for me. Awwww. I don't know if it's just a coincidence, but we also had a conversation like that with my boy last night. Me and my husband went home with pasalubong with them. He got very excited. He was very persistent and makulit in asking how many pasalubong will he get. I talked to him and told him to be patient and that he needed to be thankful first that there was something that me and his dad brought home with them. I told him to always thank God for he provided us work so that we could provide their needs. I also ask him to pray more that we don't lose our job because it's very difficult to find a decent job nowadays. He then apologized and prayed solemnly upon my request. We are so blessed to have our baby angels

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    1. Yes! I also want to teach my sons gratitude and the importance of work so that they don't think things just fall on their laps!

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  5. I remember having the same conversation with my then 3-year-old baby boy. He told me he does not want toys, we can just play together. And when I told him I needed to work to buy his milk, he said his grandma can buy it for him. Oh, if things were simple or if our basic needs can just magically appear without us having to work, I would gladly stay and play with him all day. Now, he just promptly says goodbye when I say I have to work and I don't know if I like that either. At least I get a kiss, hug and an I-love-you. Haha...

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    1. Haha, I know. My eldest is sanay na so medyo masakit sa puso when he just calls out, "Bye, Mama!" Wala man lang kiss, hug and I love you! Buti ka pa =D

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  6. hahahahahah! I've had that conversation with my kids too! And I work from home all the time! :D They just really want undivided attention for as long as they can have it. I also had to explain that I work because I love to work, and I love my work. I hope they'll understand that later.

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    1. I believe that it's healthy for kids to see we have a passion or a love or a life separate from them. =)

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  7. i am a mother of 3 and i i have to work too. Actually, work is like my me-time..so I try to live without the guilt :). i tell my kids "mommy has to work so she can buy your milk". when i get home, they ask me "wheres my milk?" haha!

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  8. I also have this conversation with Lyndel almost everyday the past month. He's getting used to the idea of me having breakfast and dinner with him. (Background: we don't have a yaya too since January) Everytime I I get ready in the morning, he asks me, "Where are you going, Mommy?" Even if he already knows I'm going to the office. And when I call him during the day, he always says "You're taking so long. When are you coming home?" And he launches into his monologue, a list of things that we should do. I've been so tired these past months because of our help-less situation. I often remember you when I make reklamo kasi I think, si Francs nga, three kids pa, kaya niya! :) Nahiya naman ako haha :)

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    1. Oh Chrissy! I work from home naman kasi and Vince is also a writer like me so kaya namin. Our life isn't so stressful. Don't compare! You'll just get frustrated! Lyndel just misses you but don't feel guilty. =) HUGS!

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  9. Smart Iñigo. Really knows the value of time. Ms. Frances ask lng po since birth po ng 3kids mo wala po talagang yaya or any helper? Thanks for sharing po. Kakainspire.

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    1. Oh no, may yaya and maid kami with the first two babies. Then when they were 3 and 1, wala kaming yaya or maid for a year. It was okay naman! Nahirapan lang kami super when I got pregnant na the third time so mid-pregnancy, we hired a maid na, si Ailyn, to do the chores sa house. But up to now, wala pa ring yaya. Although minsan, we ask Ailyn to babysit kapag parehas kami ni Vince kailangan umalis ng bahay. =)

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    2. Aw...i thought wala po tlga. I'll try my best din sana not to have one after i gve birth but it seems na di ko carry kac twins. Anyways thank you po ms. Frances☺ God bless u:)

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    3. Naku, get all the help you can get! If kaya mo dalawang yaya, go! People forget that my husband is at home with me. They always think I am raising my kids alone. I have always believed that it takes a village to raise a child. The more kids you have, the more people should be around. Ang hirap mag-alaga ng bata!!! Masisiraan ka ng bait kung mag-isa ka lang!!!

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  10. Waaahhh looks so scary...hehehe i should ready myself then. Super goodluck to me:) thanks Ms. Frances for the nuggets of wisdom=) God bless you and ur family!

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